Self-Help for Sobriety Without Relapse

My name is Hunter, I'm 24 years old, and my sobriety date is March 3, 2011. I've struggled with addiction for several years. I have been to several rehabs went to AA and NA, but I couldn't manage to stay clean and sober for no longer than 6 months, but I call it being a dry addict and alcoholic for 6 months. One thing I realized is I was never willing to change for myself, I pretty much did it for my mom and other's people's approval. But this last time I hit my rock bottom and pretty much lost everything, job, family, and on the verge of losing my place to stay, and that was  the first time i was willing to surrender and willing to do what ever it took to get the help to stay clean and sober. So, I went to a rehab out of state for 28 days and did whatever they asked me to do, for the first time I didn't complain about the rules. I just listened and learned and showed willingness. After a few weeks of being there I  had people already looking up to me like I was a positive role model and soon became chair person of 75 guys in the men's unit. I was never a leader I was always the follower, but I was willing to take  on leadership because once being in rehab I decided I want to give back and help people. I ended up getting several certificates for setting a good example and a positive role model. But deep down, I was scared because I didn't know what I was going to do when I was released, and to me, that's when the recovery starts so it was then  I came across Oxford Houses. When i was released I stayed at my parent's house for a few days. I decided I needed to start over and fresh and move to another town where I didn't know anyone. I knew I had to change the people that I kept company with and live in another place.  So I looked online and came across a few Oxford houses in Winchester, Virginia about an hour and half away from my parents,  I started making calls and within the next day I had an interview with the president at this oxford house and was accepted immediately, so the next 2 days I moved into this house, I was nervous at first, but the people in the house made me feel welcome and introduced me to a lot of people in the town which I noticed this was a town of recovery you could say, and there was many meetings in walking distance. I started gaining friendships right away with my roommates and other people in recovery. After a few months I was already learning how to live as an adult and take on responsibilities. Every oxford house has positions each person is held accountable for. The reason for that, is every house is to work together and show the people the basics on how to live clean and sober, as simple as doing your chores, making sure the house bills are paid, making sure people are going to AA/NA meetings and  making sure people gain employment and continue to look for employment. Me personally,Oxford has saved my life and taught me how to be an adult and prepare myself for the real world when ever I decide to go out on my own, I've learned how to pay bills and balance checkbooks and manage money. We pay rent just everyone would do anywhere else. Oxford houses are not ran by any staff, but we as addicts and alcoholics working together to keep the household  safe and a clean environment to live in.  After 4 months of being in the house I became president of the house, which I was already starting to get familiar with leadership. But stepping up to leadership and helping the new people which also helped me as well, I recently transferred to another oxford house at the end of march of 2012.  The house I currently live in was struggling and I was asked by the Chairman of Oxford if I would live here and turn the house around financially since I was senior member who had the experience how oxford is supposed to be run. When I came here, the house only had a $100 in their account and the checkbook hadn't been balanced for quite awhile and was a mess.  Within 2 weeks of me moving in, I was able to show the rest of the household members  how to manage the account and already had them paying their bills and rent on time and with extra money in  the account.  But again this is about teamwork, showing other members how oxford houses works. Therefore, the house members could properly welcome new members and advise them accordingly.. Just recently,  because of my reputation, I was asked to be the chair person of housing services committee, which is helping all 10 oxford houses men and women stay on track, and the houses that were struggling I would assist them of the rules and help them keep their beds full by interviewing prospected members on a regular basis or as needed. I also, spread the word of Oxford to jails, rehabs, homeless shelters that have housed addicts that are looking to start over and have the support that Oxford House gave me, a fresh start of living clean and sober. So for those addicts still struggling or just getting out of rehab or jail and want to start a new way of life, living and learning how to live clean and sober, I strongly suggest and encourage you to get into an Oxford House. Thank you for taking the time to read this and hope anyone that needs help or you know someone that needs the support and stability of living a clean and sober life at Oxford.  Please feel free to email me with any questions or concerns. You can send me a message from my profile page. Read more about Oxford House below.

The Purpose and Structure of Oxford House


Oxford House is a concept in recovery from drug and alcohol addiction. In its simplest form, an Oxford House describes a democratically run, self-supporting and drug free home. Parallel to this concept lies the organizational structure of Oxford House, Inc. This publicly supported, non-profit 501(c)3 corporation is the umbrella organization which provides the network connecting all Oxford Houses and allocates resources to duplicate the Oxford House concept where needs arise.

The number of residents in a House may range from six to fifteen; there are houses for men, houses for women, and houses which accept women with children. Oxford Houses flourish in metropolitan areas such as New York City and Washington D.C. and thrive in such diverse communities as Hawaii, Washington State, Canada and Australia; but they all abide by the basic criteria.

Each House represents a remarkably effective and low cost method of preventing relapse. This was the purpose of the first Oxford House established in 1975, and this purpose is served, day by day, house after house, in each of over 1,200 houses in the United States today.


The Oxford House Network:
A Self-Run Structure

Three or more Oxford Houses within a 100 mile radius comprise an Oxford House Chapter. A representative of each House in the Chapter meets with the others on a monthly basis, to exchange information, to seek resolution of problems in a particular House, and to express that Chapter's vote on larger issues.

The World Council is comprised of 12 members: 9 of which presently live in an Oxford House, and 3 alumni. Members are elected each year at the Oxford House World Convention. The primary mission of the Oxford House World Council is to facilitate adherence to Oxford House Traditions' concept and system of operations, by providing effective means of communication and mission focus between the various organizational structures of Oxford House as a whole. In carrying out its mission the Council always keeps a focus on expansion of the network of individual Oxford Houses, to provide all recovering alcoholics and drug addictions the opportunity to develop comfortable sobriety without relapse.

The Board of Directors maintains the sole right to Charter, and to revoke the Charter of, individual Oxford Houses and exercises authority over the policies and officers of Oxford House, Inc. In this way, Oxford House, Inc. remains responsive to the needs of the population it serves.

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